Thank you, Bridges Conner, founder of Get Organized with Bridges + Co for this excellent article from HGTV on how to organize a kid’s closet. Now if she would just send an article about MY closet!! Click here to read “10 Ways to Organize Your Kid’s Closet”
Why are women expected to know how to decorate a home? Traditionally, when a woman gets married, she is expected to be the one to decorate the home. Even before she is married, she may feel the responsibility to be the homemaker and therefore the family decorator. Bachelors, on the other hand, are considered inept in this area and always seeking help with buying and making furnishings decisions.
Well, these stereotypes just aren’t true! This certainly has not been my experience in my design practice. In most cases, the husband has been very involved and in several cases taken over the project and been my primary contact. I am not sure why but one answer may be that I always engage the husband and actually insist he be part of the first and second meeting. Once this happens, he becomes more comfortable and the mystery of decorating is dissolved and the fear becomes minimized or completely removed. He is now experiencing the process and therefore appreciates his wife’s efforts and feels important to her and to the process.
I have seen it many times: connecting in this way strengthens relationships and brings couples closer. Contrary to what sometimes is said – that building a home or decorating can be stressful – when everyone feels important to the project and that their input is valued, the project improves and so does the relationship.
There is another benefit. This collaboration has also proven to result in a distinctive design outcome because both people bring their taste and style to the project resulting in a one-of-a-kind blend that is unique to the couple. I like to call this 1 + 1 = 3. They have now created a “look” that is solely theirs. We don’t want to live in someone else’s taste and style, particularly if we really don’t like it, but when there is discussion and we bring in the three elements of The Bajaro Method (understanding, accepting, allowing) then there is harmony and the project can move forward. It also results in a happy outcome when the project is completed. It will eliminate mistakes and needless expenditures.
On the other hand, the single person has the opportunity to totally express themselves in their most personal environment – the home. It’s important before beginning to make decorating changes or choices to explore their taste, separate from what they grew up with or have been influenced by through friends or media. Then the individual can create an environment that is truly theirs and in which they feel connected and comfortable.
The most important thing to remember, when decorating for yourself or with someone else is that it has to “feel right” and to recognize when it doesn’t. You may not know why but your feeling is real and you must listen to it. If it feels right, you will love your design choices and feel happy living in the space you created.
Always remember, rooms have no feelings, YOU do!
God’s Garden Treasures is always open to special requests and eager to learn about your goals, expectations and what is most important to you. Want to change up the color in the bouquet you ordered or swap out one flower to add their favorite flower? Interested in special-ordering a specific flower for a future delivery date? Let us know! We’ve even picked up hot soup to deliver with flowers to someone who’s sick; and opened and read the card message to a woman who is elderly at the request of her family out of state; and faithfully deliver flowers every other week to one client’s Mom. MORE on God’s Garden Treasures.
Here we are again – my favorite time of year – autumn. The sameness of the summer heat is relieved by cool mornings and evenings which is a most welcome change. This change of season also symbolizes that the holidays are approaching. We now have a theme for decorating which gives us the opportunity to be creative.
For example, Halloween is an expression of autumn. Lights and decorations are popular and mark the beginning of the holiday season. As I went into my clients’ homes, many had some expression of the Halloween season – even the ones who don’t have children. Before Halloween, I went to a new client’s home where it was obvious that there was a new doormat. It was in bright orange with black lettering on it that said BOO! It put a smile on my face that I was still wearing when my client opened the door.
I, too, was bitten by the Halloween bug. I brought out my orange glass lamp with its black shade. I welcomed it with a cleaning rag, a smile and a central spot in my kitchen. Then I pulled out my orange placemats. Next my orange vase was placed by the sink with fresh fall flowers. I add small pumpkins and other fresh fruits and vegetable as touches of nature. And finally, I hunted for fallen leaves that turned color and placed them about the house and around my floor plants to give me the feel of walking in the leaves.
It is amazing how something as simple as color signals the change of seasons. Simply by introducing color, we are making a statement of each holiday without words. Burnt orange, deep yellow and rust make you think of fall and Halloween. Winter colors—forest green, red and metallic gold – are most prevalent at Christmas. As we move into Spring and Easter, we see the bright pastels. And then we transition into Summer with whites, off whites and soft, muted pastels.
We can bring these colors into our homes with simple touches of fabric, spray paint or flowers — and then there is the old pillow trick. You need to add only one interchangeable pillow at each season to set the tone in your home.
Living in Arizona, we need to create our own fun and focus of change because the seasons are not as dramatic as in other climates. However, now that it’s autumn, we seem to breathe differently and certainly have a different schedule with the daylight hours getting shorter.
One of the ways I create a seasonal difference in my home is with lighting. Because we do not change our clocks, we can use lighting to create a seasonal interior change. My favorite thing to do is place timers on the up lights that highlight a plant or sculpture. Or you can create a glow behind a piece of furniture, such as a chair or sofa, which gives a warm, inviting, cozy and dramatic look and feel. The subtle light goes on as it gets darker and the light goes off around your bedtime. It is very soothing and calming at the end of the day to have a soft glow in your surroundings. This also supports the feeling that your environment is taking care of you, rather than having to control the light every time you walk into a room.
Remember, you can bring the seasons into your home, by bringing in color and interesting lighting because, rooms have no feelings, YOU do!
By: David Neishabori
Owner of Azadi Fine Rugs
IN THE MOMENT, has just been announced at the Behr 2018 Color of the Year!
The color is described as a “spruce blue” and is described by Behr as, “inspired by nature and is a soothing, restorative coalescence of blue, gray and green.”
Behr goes on to say, “This comfortable color evokes a sense of sanctuary and relaxation amid our busy, always-on lives. In name and color, this hue speaks to our desire to take a break, be present and recharge. IN THE MOMENT is versatile and perfect to use for both interior and exterior projects. It also crosses multiple design styles, ideal for working with traditional, modern, coastal and global décor.”
So how do you incorporate “IN THE MOMENT” with area rugs for you upcoming design projects? See below for some suggestions from AZADI Fine Rugs, or stop by to see their collection of over 10,000 contemporary and antique area rugs.
God’s Garden Treasures is your floral concierge! Flowers are a perfect gift for Corporate Events, Open Houses or Grand Openings. Find out what the recipient’s lobby decor is like or a piece of artwork in the space and ask for a matching floral design. It will show that you paid attention to detail and extra care and that you focused on them! MORE!
Eric Kaye was no stranger to the healthcare field when Jewish Family & Children’s Service asked him to start Jewish Family Home Care of Arizona in 2010. “It started with my own grandmother, Emily Koen, who was a Holocaust survivor [living] in Scottsdale,” says Eric. “My grandfather was gone and she needed help.”
She trusted JFCS and inquired if there was a program to assist her. The care she needed wasn’t available at that time, so Eric became her caregiver. Being in the healthcare field, he had had a connection with JFCS for many years through hospice, hospitals or home care. Then JFCS recruited him to start its home care program. He ran Jewish Family Home Care of Arizona from its inception until he decided to branch out on his own and started Connections In Home Care in 2014.
At that point, the JFCS ended its home care program and started referring clients to Eric. Connections In Home Care was asked to continue the existing contract with The Blue Card program (bluecardfund.org), which provides financial assistance to needy Holocaust survivors. With Eric’s grandmother a survivor, The Blue Card and its beneficiaries hit close to home. Connections In Home Care currently has 15 clients who receive assistance from The Blue Card program.
The Blue Card used to provide recipients with up to 30 hours of care each week: 25 hours from the organization and five hours from private funding. Unfortunately, those five hours have been cut. The Blue Card also only covers care, so Eric and Denise donate all the miles they drive related to these clients’ care.
“It definitely breaks my heart,” says Denise Kaye, Eric’s wife and business partner. “We have 15 people on service and four people who were used to getting 30 hours, [which] are now reduced to 25.” Denise notes that if private donors want to give to The Blue Card, they can specify a region for their donation.
Be more proactive than reactive.
Eric says that the care offered to both The Blue Card and other clients can be broken down into two categories: companion care and personal care. Companion care includes light housekeeping, laundry, making beds or changing linens, doing dishes, vacuuming, transportation, medication reminders, meal planning and preparation, fall prevention, various projects (clearing clutter, getting organized) and basic companionship.
“Personal care is where we tailor the service to individuals based on their needs,” says Eric. Personal care includes everything on the companion side, as well as help in the shower, help with walking or with moving from sitting to standing with back, incontinent care, dressing, personal hygiene and more.
“We work a lot with clients afflicted with any type of dementia, Parkinson’s or other neurological challenges,” says Eric. “We train on working with that population … successfully, managing education and behaviors.” Respite care is also available if a client’s family members, spouse or primary caregiver need some time to themselves.
“Our services are anywhere from a [daily] four-hour shift … to 24 hours a day,” says Eric. “We are on call 24/7. You will speak to one of us [Eric or Denise] or Jennifer [Bohnsack], our administrator.”
Connections In Home Care currently has 50 employees servicing Maricopa County. Employees go through a rigorous process that includes phone screening, background and Motor Vehicle Department checks, drug testing, in-service training and orientation.
“Finding good, caring, reliable caregivers is the number-one obstacle that we face,” says Eric. But when they do find those special people, they accommodate and take care of them. “We respect and nurture our caregivers; and we have high expectations for them because it is our name and reputation – they are representing us,” says Denise. “We have had clients who have had the same caregiver for years and they really love each other. It’s this beautiful bond. That’s the joy of doing this [kind of work].”
Denise’s mission is to educate people (she was a former middle school teacher before earning her MBA and working with Eric) and get them to think about having a plan in place for the future. “I talk to estate planners, financial planners, elder attorneys – because 85% of our calls are emergencies,” says Denise. “People will call and say, ‘My mom is in the hospital. She is going to rehab. They are going to discharge her. I don’t know what to do.’ If you have something in place way before that happens, you can be more proactive than reactive.”
She recommends that people begin planning as early as in their 50s. “You have to talk about it – and it’s difficult – but people want to honor your wishes and make it so that they are doing what you want. Make these decisions while you can,” recommends Denise.
A “third baby”
Eric and Denise offer more than just care for their clients. They also have connections to many valuable resources – whether it’s a handyman to install grab bars for safety or an attorney for estate planning. If clients decide it’s time to move to an assisted living community, they know people who can help find the best one to fit their needs.
“This is our ‘third baby,’” says Denise. (The couple have two children: Asher, 13, and Lirit, 10.) “We nurture each case and client and take really good care of them,” adds Eric. “We want to be there for someone to be as independent as possible, for as long as possible, in their own home. That’s why they hire us.” Eric and Denise personally ensure that each client is getting the appropriate level of care.
“Our fundamental value is gemilut chasadim – acts of love and kindness – and that’s what we like to portray out there in the community,” says Eric. “That is what we tell our caregivers in the training. That’s our main, fundamental, shared value and that is what I think our clients in the community see…”
“I love our tagline ‘connecting hearts to homes,’” adds Denise. “I feel like it’s a certain kind of person who does this. They have such big hearts and they care so much for the clients, and we do it well. I love to visit the clients and just listen to them. They have insight and wisdom. They have such stories to tell.”
Article originally appeared in Arizona Jewish Life, May 2017″
“I am inspired by a customer’s hatred of their kitchen. Old, outdated, poorly functional kitchens can ruin homes. Guiding the customer through the process of designing, planning, and construction inspires me.” Donald McKenzie MORE!
Consigning unwanted clothes and household goods is good for both your pocket book and the environment. Did you realize it also helps charitable organizations? Yes, items that don’t sell are donated to charities that use the items for their clients, thrift stores or other needs. MORE!
Barbara was a guest on Business for Breakfast on KFNN 1510. She had an excellent time talking with hosts Ken Morgan and Mark Asher. Listen now if you missed the live show!